Here’s the thing…I love Walter, I love our time together, and I also love our time apart. We both agree that absence makes the heart grow fonder and not to toot our own horns, but we are going strong on 12+ years together. I’m not ashamed to admit I love when he leaves for the weekend or for short conferences. Now, the second he leaves in the back of my mind I am counting down the hours until we will be reunited, but I am also keeping myself busy and doing things on my own time.
This weekend Walter was away in Nashville for a family function and I stayed in New Haven to hold down the fort. I had planned a busy weekend, but my plans were dashed when I caught the bug that is going around. Instead, I had a low key weekend spent mostly on the couch. One of the best things about Walter being out of town is I get full reign of the living room. We only have one TV in our house and it is in the living room. When we are both home Walter is playing video games, watching something he wants to watch or we have to agree on a show to watch together. I think I watched a whole season of Will & Grace between Friday evening and Sunday afternoon. When Walter is home he can only tolerate around three episodes of Will & Grace. However, the downside is I can’t watch the shows we watch together, ie Black Mirror and This Is Us. I can also choose to turn off the TV whenever I want and read a few chapters of my book on the couch. This month’s book club book, Middlesex, is over 500 pages and I am trying to read as much as possible everyday because I don’t want to be the only person who hasn’t finished when we meet in two weeks.
Another perk of having a weekend alone is not having to share food. I considered punctuating that sentence with a heart because that is how much I love not having to share food. Don’t get me wrong, I will share my food and do it with a smile on my face, but I also love having ALL THE FOOD TO MYSELF. Saturday I ordered Thai food from Thai Spice via Grub Hub. Am I the only person who secretly doesn’t hate a ridiculously high minimum order amount? Oh well, more food for me! I originally was only going to order pad thai and summer rolls, but the $20 minimum caused me to toss some spring rolls in my basket (and belly). Earlier in the day I picked up a pint of my favorite Ben & Jerry’s flavor, coconut seven layer bar made with almond milk. I was really excited to be able to eat the whole pint to myself. Alas, the aforementioned bug only allowed me to have a few bites of my dinner and dessert before I couldn’t eat anymore.
Something I like to do when I have some alone time (or with my sister) is walk around Target with a Starbucks in hand at my own pace. When I go with Walter I feel like I have to open my eyes as wide as possible to take in as much as I can at once because he always wants to get in and get out as fast as possible. This Target trip I only needed a cake pan because I have somehow managed to go my whole adult life without one? Like most people, I used to not be able to leave Target without spending $60, but no-spend January has changed me. The only spare item I picked up this trip is my beloved pickle pouches.
The last thing I always like to do before Walter gets home is clean the whole house. I know how much I love to come home to a clean house so I like to do that for him (and a little bit for me). I feel like this makes me seem old fashioned. Let me make this clear, I don’t do it because he expects it or because I feel like it is my wifely duty, I do it for us.
Now that Walter is home, I’m glad neither of us have weekends away for a while because I do miss him something awful when we are apart. Things are more fun when we are together, but I think it’s good for us to have time apart to appreciate each others company more. I think it’s wonderful to be able to be independent and in a strong relationship at the same time. It is one of the most kick ass parts of the Yoberts team.